I SAID I DIDN'T WANT TO FRENCH KISS HIM & NOW I'VE CHANGED MY MIND BUT...(10 PTS)!!!!!!!!!?

This guy & I tlk all the time & we get along really well. We tlked about dating & what we want to get out of the relationship. He has had sex b4 but regrets it. He says it ruined his life & I believe he is now saving that for marriage (like me). He says he got tested afterwards, & is fine. But he seemed disappointed when I said I didn't want to french kiss. He said it wouldn't be on the 1st, 2nd or 3rd date; just when we become comfortable w/ each other. I didn't approve at the time, but then I realized it's not that different from regular kissing & it wouldn't be until we have been dating for a while. I really like him a lot; 1 day we tlked for 6 hrs. He makes me really happy. The thing is now he needs to think if we are better as friends or bf/gf. He says he is not using me, he just needs to know if he is ok w/out it (the fk b/c I told him I would never do it) He says he wants space & to back off for a little bit, but he wrote me a really sweet poem on fb as his status & I think he really wants to date but he just doesn't see anything wrong with fk. He said he respects it; just really doesn't understand it. What I am wondering now is should I give him the space that he asked for or should I just send him a short sweet fb message, saying I'm sorry if that upset him but I did change my mind. I assume as long as we can control it, it won't lead to sex, right? Cause I can, I'm just worried about him since he's had sex b4. Plz help! Thx!